A Different Version of You Exists in The Minds of Everyone
This is a continuous reflection that consistently occupies my thoughts about self-perception. I’ve come to realize that the “version of you” we see in the mirror or exhibit in our behavior may not align with how others perceive us.
“For every person you encounter, there is a version of you that exists in their mind.”
As someone who tends to overthink everything, the paradox of this “version of you” has been remarkably disruptive to my thoughts lately. I’ve always assumed that the “version of you” I perceive is consistent, only to discover that it varies significantly in the eyes of different individuals — be it my parents, friends, colleagues, bosses, or strangers I meet for the first time, whether at the station, market, office, or elsewhere. Yes, indeed, each of them holds a distinct “version of you.”
I see myself as cheerful, easily amused by small things, and independent. However, in the eyes of others, like my parents, they consider me reserved, afraid of being alone, prone to anxiety — a version that contradicts the one I perceive. The same applies to all the versions that others capture when they see or encounter you for the first time.
In the minds of those observing you on a train platform, for instance, they might happen to notice your expression, and unfortunately, if you appear upset or have a stern facial expression, they might immediately create a version of you as someone irritable. Thus, the concept of the “infinite version of you” takes shape in the minds of people every time they see us.
On the other hand, the “version of you” you see within yourself and the one perceived by others can be the same, why? Because the closer you get to others and the more intensively you interact, the more you eventually feel open and comfortable with each other. The “version of you” you see in yourself will eventually be seen by others. For example, think of a close friend with whom you share everything and trust implicitly. Now ask them about their “first impression” of you, and they might mention you being indifferent, irritable, talkative, harsh, and so on. However, over time, as you grow closer and grant them the trust to see your true self, the initial versions they created of you gradually fade, and they now perceive the real version of you.
There are so many versions of you in this world and so many times that you’ll have the opportunity to make a first impression, so make it a good one. — odyssey
Anyway, this is the first time I’m writing something. I apologize if it looks messy, and there might be many word choice or repetition errors. Please let me know if there are mistakes or suggestions to make me more enthusiastic about writing here. Thank you.
